“Divorces are expensive. Marriage ruins relationships.” These are the words I keep hearing over and over again. In fact, I find myself telling almost everyone who shows the slightest interest in me that marriage ruins relationships—because it stops people from making an effort. Since 2016, I’ve been single —dipping my foot into relationships here and there, only to find that it often feels like too much work for its worth. I find myself dreading the inevitable, the dead end of what it seems like every relationship. I found myself trying my hardest to avoid falling into a mariage trap. But does a relationship have to have an expiration date? After…