Know Your Worth Part 1: Stop Accepting Crumbs in Life & Love

Hallo beautiful ladies, let’s have a real sisterhood moment together. Know Your Worth and stop accepting crumbs.

Too many of us are out here sitting at the table of life, grateful for crumbs, when we were meant to enjoy the whole flippin’ cake.

People often assume I can have any man I want, but what they don’t see is the journey it took to become the woman I am today. I had to grow, unlearn old habits, and step fully into my worth. Now I know I deserve the full cake—the whole flippin’ cake—and not just crumbs.

Crumbs look like:

• Someone scrolling on their phone during your date while you’re opening your heart.
• A partner who does the bare minimum but acts like it’s everything.
• Being made to feel like you’re “asking too much” when all you want is basic support.
• Being expected to leave your own life behind to follow someone else’s dreams, while commitment to you isn’t even on the table.
• A “friend” who only shows up when they need something, but disappears when you do.
• A boss who piles on the work but never recognizes your effort.

I’ve been there too. I remember a season where I kept showing up exhausted from my 9-to-5, rushing to pack overnight bags every weekend because that’s what was expected of me. All I wanted was to have a few basics—my daily toiletries and skincare—so I could feel at home and cared for. It wasn’t about extravagance, just about being comfortable. And when even that was treated like it was too much, I realized something important: it’s not about what you’re “asking for,” it’s about whether someone values you enough to meet you where you are. That was the moment I chose peace over crumbs, and I’ve never looked back. to accept crumbs.

And the wildest part? When we accept those crumbs, we’re silently telling the world, “This is enough for me. I’ll take whatever you give.”

Ladies, crumbs might feel small, harmless, or even “normal,” but they add up. They drain your energy, your confidence, and your peace. You are worthy of so much more than scraps. Refuse crumbs. Demand what you deserve.

No, my dear ladies. Not anymore.

You Teach People How to Treat You

Here’s the thing: people will treat you based on the standards you set. Every time you sit quietly while someone disrespects you, you’re teaching them, “I’ll accept this.”

But the moment you stand up for yourself—even calmly, with grace—you send a different message: “I value myself too much to be treated like this.” And trust me, the right people will rise to meet you at that level. The wrong ones will fall away (and good riddance).

Self-Value is the Real Glow-Up

Before anyone else can value you, you’ve got to show them how it’s done. That doesn’t mean arrogance—it means self-respect. It’s the way you care for your body, protect your peace, and carry yourself with quiet confidence.

When you walk into a room looking and acting like you know your worth, people feel it before you even say a word.

How to Stop Accepting Crumbs (Starting Today)

1. Call it out with grace. If someone’s half-present with you, say, “Looks like you’re busy. Let’s connect when we can both give our full attention.”
2. Don’t argue your worth. If someone can’t meet your standards, simply step back. No explanations needed.
3. Protect your feminine energy. You don’t owe anyone unlimited access to your time, heart, or peace. If they want it, they better be ready to pay the price. You want me at your place every single weekend—the only time I get off work? Then make it easy for me to get there and actually enjoy myself. I’m not here for extra stress, I’m here for the full vibe..

Big Sister Closing

Ladies, crumbs are for birds—not for you. You are the whole cake. You are layered with richness, sweetness, and substance. Stop waiting for someone else to hand you a plate. Slice it yourself, serve it proudly, and only share it with those who know how to savor it.

You set the price. You set the tone. You decide the serving size.